"Relationships are like amusement parks where you can't choose your rides."
"Its about finding yourself before you find someone... because otherwise, you eventually find that someone, but you lose yourself."
"There are many hands that can be extended, but the only one that can pick me up is mine."
"To find someone that understands you is important no doubt, but its probably more important to find someone that you understand."
"Sorting things out is NOT finding who is to blame. It is , finding out what went wrong."
"Its never good or bad, its ONLY UGLY. " ;) kidding !! ...
All of this said, finally, its not really all that complicated !!!! Its us self proclaimed thinkers and poets that make it sound really profound... its only as complicated as you make it... dont take things toooooo very seriously
( unless needed) ... Be yourself and be a little patient... readiness to give is important.. hardly anything goes wrong when both ppl are more keen on giving than taking....
Space.... not expecting too much (Damn !! its really easy to type all of these things) and learning how to forgive... thats all it takes... most important however, is that you look inward for happiness... learn to find it within yourself... if ur sitting there waiting for and expecting it to come from someone else, ur asking for trouble... you shouldn't be looking to find happiness in someone else... it is NOT sustainable... besides how will one even find it anywhere else if he/she cant find it within oneself???... and for heavens sake do what it takes to have a bad memory (this is situational and convenience driven ;) ) ....
One has to be flexible... we all want ppl to accept and respect for who we are ... but even when that happens, it doesnt mean that the person can necessarily tolerate some parts of who you are... so sometimes, some compromises, some changes may be warranted... be ready to make those changes... small changes that can mean a lot ... thats about all..
Sounds really simple doesn't it??? hahaha.... Love is like the Indian cricket team... looks marvelous on paper... and, quite a marvel of a different kind, on the field (if you know what i mean ) ... its just a matter of perspective... Obviously one must be an individual, a strong one and not leech onto somebody for attention. Learn to differentiate between adjustments and compromises. Adjustments are OK, compromises aren't. Last but foremost, keep your self respect in tact, nobody is going to respect you if you don't respect yourself.
Everything is fair in love and war say wise men.... eventually its important not to overlook how subtly they've equated the two ... ;)
"Its about finding yourself before you find someone... because otherwise, you eventually find that someone, but you lose yourself."
"There are many hands that can be extended, but the only one that can pick me up is mine."
"To find someone that understands you is important no doubt, but its probably more important to find someone that you understand."
"Sorting things out is NOT finding who is to blame. It is , finding out what went wrong."
"Its never good or bad, its ONLY UGLY. " ;) kidding !! ...
All of this said, finally, its not really all that complicated !!!! Its us self proclaimed thinkers and poets that make it sound really profound... its only as complicated as you make it... dont take things toooooo very seriously
( unless needed) ... Be yourself and be a little patient... readiness to give is important.. hardly anything goes wrong when both ppl are more keen on giving than taking....
Space.... not expecting too much (Damn !! its really easy to type all of these things) and learning how to forgive... thats all it takes... most important however, is that you look inward for happiness... learn to find it within yourself... if ur sitting there waiting for and expecting it to come from someone else, ur asking for trouble... you shouldn't be looking to find happiness in someone else... it is NOT sustainable... besides how will one even find it anywhere else if he/she cant find it within oneself???... and for heavens sake do what it takes to have a bad memory (this is situational and convenience driven ;) ) ....
One has to be flexible... we all want ppl to accept and respect for who we are ... but even when that happens, it doesnt mean that the person can necessarily tolerate some parts of who you are... so sometimes, some compromises, some changes may be warranted... be ready to make those changes... small changes that can mean a lot ... thats about all..
Sounds really simple doesn't it??? hahaha.... Love is like the Indian cricket team... looks marvelous on paper... and, quite a marvel of a different kind, on the field (if you know what i mean ) ... its just a matter of perspective... Obviously one must be an individual, a strong one and not leech onto somebody for attention. Learn to differentiate between adjustments and compromises. Adjustments are OK, compromises aren't. Last but foremost, keep your self respect in tact, nobody is going to respect you if you don't respect yourself.
Everything is fair in love and war say wise men.... eventually its important not to overlook how subtly they've equated the two ... ;)
Like they say, where love is thick, faults are thin...
Thinking Infinity.
Should be the rulebook of relationships..Very well put:)
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